Pregnancy is no longer a ‘delicate condition’ for women. Today ‘s pregnant woman, works, walks, travels, exercises, goes on shopping expeditions, parties and even has sex.
Many are under the misconception that sex is not possible during pregnancy. Sex is not only safe but can also be exciting while you are pregnant. If you are having a normal low-risk pregnancy, you can have sex during all stages of pregnancy.
It is however your personal choice and inclination as to whether you wish to have sex while pregnant. If you are too anxious about hurting the baby then it is best for you and your partner to discuss this with your doctor.
Many pregnant women find their libido at an all time low during the first trimester, which is quite normal. Nausea and fatigue will take its toll until your body gets used to the surging hormones and the new pregnant you. Second trimester is the best period of all. By now, your nausea would have vanished and you would have got your appetite back. You will also get your libido back.
Fears about hurting your child are quite normal but they are unfounded. Your baby is cocooned safely in your uterus and having sex will not hurt the baby. Many couples who have been trying to conceive for a long time will find sex during pregnancy more pleasurable. For them, sex would have become a necessary chore in order to conceive and now that they have achieved their goal they can relax and enjoy it.
Talk with your partner about your comfort levels. If you are not comfortable or relaxed about sex, then discuss with your doctor about the safe positions to have sex in. There are many recommended safe positions for sex during pregnancy such as woman on top, spooning, hands and knees, side lying with knees pulled up.
Sex during pregnancy can also be a very emotional experience for both the couples. Sex will no longer be a wild, tear-your-clothes act. Tenderness and soft touches that can be more fulfilling than any orgasm will replace it. You can also try to discover some new position by exploring a bit and you will find that trying to be intimate is more fun that actual intimacy!
Some men are totally scared to touch their pregnant wives. If your partner is intimidated by your swelling belly and is not willing risk sex then you can probably find other means to get intimate. Relaxing baths, romantic dinner or even just holding hands can connect you at an emotional level.
It is however not advisable to have sex if your doctor has advised against it. If you have had a previous miscarriage or a premature birth, then it is best to avoid sex until the child is born. For some women, the placenta would partly covering the cervix which is likely to get ruptured during sex hence they would be advised against it. And if you are having some bleeding or if your partner has a sexually transmitted disease then having sex would be a strict no no.