Addicted To The Pacifier…

Does he/she like it, or need it? This is a burning question that many parents have when they find their child (as well as the entire family) is enslaved to that dreaded pacifier.

Babies are born with the need to suck. Some even suck their thumbs or fingers in the womb. The desire to suck is actually an important factor in helping newborns naturally breastfeed. Beyond nutrition, sucking is also often a way for babies to sooth themselves. It is a comforting and calming mechanism that helps them cope.

But are pacifiers really OK for your baby? Although the answer to that question is often debated, for many reasons, the American Academy of Pediatrics does give pacifiers the green light throughout baby’s first year.

Although pacifiers are intended primarily to ease the desire to suck, many parents take the name pacifier literally; they use it to pacify a restless or cranky child. As time marches forward, this kind of use usually will increase a child’s dependence on the pacifier for comfort and stress relief, which can cause difficulty when it is time to wean. The problem comes when we wait too long.

So, when do I begin to wean my child away from the pacifier? Although that is not a straight forward question, because every child is different, weaning should typically begin between the ages of 10 and 16 months. After that, the longer you wait, the harder it gets to quit!

When do you know if it is time? Weaning should begin when the pacifier begins to become a pleasurable want, verses a tool to help the child cope with fundamental needs. At this point in time, it all boils down a distinction of pleasure.

As outlined in, all of us are a Pleasure seeking, Pain avoiding machines. It is fundamental to being human! This is true on both a conscience, and sub-conscience level. So here is the situation. Your child has this thing, called the Pacifier which he or she is attached to. They are deriving pleasure from it on a conscience and sub-conscience level. If you have any doubt about this, watch the next time your child reaches for their beloved pacifier. Notice the facial expressions and the body language. No matter what you say to your child, or no matter what kind of logic you try to apply, their brain will still associate pleasure from reaching for, and sticking that pacifier into their mouth.

It then basically boils down to one of two solutions: Cold (painful) Turkey, or gently recondition the behavior as it translates to pleasure. The key here is to become educated on the various techniques that incorporate the dynamics of altering pleasurable behavior.

Become Educated; It’s the Key to Lasting Success!

By Eric Trager,

Author and publisher of Bye-Bye-Binky.

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Do babies need to be disciplined

Babies are royal people, you cannot command them but have to be always at their command. Though it is not possible to instill discipline in babies at a very small age, it is important to make them understand how to behave so that it becomes their natural behavior as they grow up.

Discipline for the babies is to make them understand their boundaries—what they are allowed to do and what not. It is in the nature of the babies to try out different things, which we in adult language call mischief. But if the baby will not try to understand the environment around him, how will he learn and grow up.

The job of the parent is to sit and watch the baby closely by holding on the boundaries firmly. Love, patience and consistency are the keys to discipline. When you want to bring him out of a situation just pose a finger in firm ‘no’ and redirect his attention to some other thing. Experts say that as babies grow old, they begin to understand what ‘no’ means. As they will get your instructions time and again, they will themselves learn how to behave.

Disciplining babies is an art. Babies thrive on parent’s love and guidance. Yelling and shouting at them when they do any mischief is futile and dangerous. As your baby cannot make out the difference between right and wrong, it will only scare him.

Never give in to the babies cries and yells too soon. If your baby yells to have food fast and you think that it can lead to suffocation, let him yell his way out for some time. You need to keep on feeding him at your own pace. Over the time, the baby will understand that there is no use of yelling and his habit will gradually die out. The other best way to discipline babies is by baby proofing the house so that there are really less chances of your child getting into murkier situations.

I accept that disciplining the babies is not easy, but with patience, consistency and love you can tell your babies how not to behave. Just be a good parent to make your baby a good child.

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Is Your Baby Coughing: Find Out About Cough in Babies

There is nothing more painful for a mother than a sick baby. If your baby has caught cold, it means holding and caring a fussy child for a few good days, which can also be weeks. Expect sleepless nights for your baby and yourself, as the child will struggle to breathe, especially while feeding.

Cough is nothing serious but a common health problem among babies. Minor coughing helps your baby to open airways in his chest and throat. But, if unattended for a long period, cough can cause other serious diseases. If your baby coughs suddenly, it can be due to choking and demands immediate medical care.

Some of the major causes of cough are cold, fever, bronchiolitis, dust, smoke, asthma, and even pneumonia. Cough caused due to cold, results in running nose and sneezing fast. These are normal symptoms of allergy. With most of the babies, cough and wheezing is caused by small particles of dust found in the environment.
Severe coughing can be very problematic for your little one. He may find great difficulty in breathing particularly during the night. There can also be fever and loss of appetite in the child. If despite having cough, the child is taking food properly and doing all his daily activities normally, then there is no requirement of urgent medical care. Cough will die out in a few days.

Cough congestion can dealt with naturally as well. Keep your baby’s head raised as they sleep so that the cough’s flow remains downwards. Keep cleaning the nose time to time so that it does not prevent breathing. Giving your child a hot shower in a closed bathroom also works well. When the child will inhale the steam, the cough will come out. During night, you can use a humidifier or decongestant but only after consulting the pediatrician.

The best way of dealing with your baby’s cough is preventing the situations that can cause it. Keep the baby warm in cold environment. The feeding mother should avoid cold food and smoking. If your baby is prone to coughing, discuss the situation with the pediatrician to seek medical advice.

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Why You Need to Level and Anchor Your Furniture

It may seem obvious to you why you need to strap down wicker yard furniture when a storm’s coming through, but that heavy oak bookcase that runs from your floor to your ceiling may not seem at risk of going anywhere. However, it is important for you to level and anchor all your furniture to keep your home safe. Here’s why:

Prevent Injury
When furniture is unsteady because one leg is wobbly or the surface is uneven, it increases the risk of it being able to fall over or be pulled down. Imagine your toddler trying to pull up or climb on that heavy oak bookcase that’s on an uneven surface: Tragedy can happen.

It’s important to level the legs by using leveling mounts or shims on the furniture or the floor and to anchor it to the wall for added protection with earthquake straps or other tethers.

Prevent Damages
When heavy furniture falls, it can also crash into your television, cut a giant hole in your drywall, or even leave a big gash in the floor. Even smaller pieces of furniture like end tables or buffets can cause expensive damages if they fall over, either by losing balance or by being knocked down in an earthquake or storm.

Make sure that all your furniture is on steady footing and is strapped to a wall or other anchor to prevent damages and potentially serious injuries.

Leveling and anchoring your furniture is a basic safety measure, whether you have children or not. If you aren’t sure where to get started, you can hire a professional to perform a safety audit on your house. Taking the step can save you money or even save your life.

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Surrogacy — The Process

The idea of using a surrogate in modern pregnancy is still a somewhat controversial practice – despite the fact there were an estimated 1400 babies born via surrogacy in the U.S. in 2011. Other than those who have actively looked into this childbirth process, most people don’t know much about it. The reality of surrogacy is both surprising and reassuring, and it is ultimately a viable alternative for those women who can’t carry a child to term. Continue reading

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Is My Baby Fat?

Traditionally, grandparents do not see their grandchildren as fat. They think that round chubby pink cheeks just tell the story of good health and not obesity. But these days with the growing awareness of health and nutrition, parents want their children to eat well and have a balanced body.

If your child is a little chubby and people do comment about his weight saying ‘how big he looks’, it may alarm you. But keep in mind that just being a little chubby does not mean that your child is overweight. Do not believe on anything else but just the growth chart. If your child’s weight matches with what it should be at his or her age, then there is nothing to worry about.

Consult your doctor to have a review of your child’s health. The doctor will measure the child’s weight, height and match these numbers with what is there on a growth chart. Doctors these days use better growth charts that consider a child’s body mass index or BMI. BMI indicates whether the height and weight of the child are in normal proportion or not.

The BMI chart helps the parents to know whether your child has too much of body fat in comparison to the actual weight measurements. The BMI of an adult is measured with a direct formula, but BMIs of children are calculated as per their age and gender. BMI system has scope for the changes in the composition of children’s body that take place as a child grows older.

Being chubby as a child does not predict an overweight teenage or adult. Children’s body keeps on changing as they grow up. A baby that may seem a little heavy to you may have on a leaner look as a school child. Overweight children at times grow into their weight. They become thin as they grow taller. When the child grows in height, their weight grows at a smaller pace and the two come in proportion.

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Soothe your baby with music

Music plays a very important role in our lives and babies are not different. Even traditionally lullabies have proved to be very effective on babies for putting them to sleep. Music comes naturally to babies. They respond better to tune than to a speech.

Music is very soothing for the nerves and soul of the baby. I have tried playing music for my son ever since he was born. Whenever he became really fussy and went out of my control, I began playing music for him. It can be radio or a classical number or even my own soothing tune, it doesn’t matter as long as it is melodious.
Music can put babies to sleep. For the parents, who often use cry-to-sleep method to put their baby to sleep, trying playing music for him can be a good idea.

If you will play music to a crying baby, it is very much possible that he will forget his tears and pay attention to the tune. He may also try to figure out by rotating his head, where it is coming from. Music comes to the resort of both the baby and the parents.

If you will make a regular encounter of music with your baby, he will begin to understand the right pitch. It seems that they are gifted with rhythm. As the baby grows, you will be surprised to see him getting excited or even dancing to the tune of music.

Listening to music at an early age also makes babies learn language. Not just tunes but a melody with words has a stronger influence on babies. Since infancy is the age when a child develops his language skill, music can bring an advantage. Doctors have started using music as a therapy to sick or premature babies. Studies say that activities of baby’s cell ferments rise after listening to music.

So what music to play for your baby? You can buy CDs of classical music, or the ones with the sounds of nature, such as waterfalls, rain, birds etc. So enjoy music with your baby and relax.

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How did my baby catch a cold?

Accept it or not, your baby’s catching cold is a normal situation. No matter how safely you keep your baby, he may catch cold virus from almost anywhere. The reason why babies are susceptible to cold is their immature immunity system. They are not able to fight off the cold virus and thus get victimized by it often.
The time when the babies are most likely to catch cold is winters and changing weathers. The hot and cold combinations make baby’s nasal membranes dry and thus give the virus an easy hideout. Experts say that the immune system of the babies can only resist 200 different cold viruses that can cause common colds. With the growing pollution and changing times, we don’t know how many new viruses are there in the environment.
Moreover, as babies grow, they start understanding and feeling things around them by touching and licking. Never mind how clean you keep them, babies are bound to get dirty and pick up viruses in their hands. Once they lick their hands or rub their eyes, the virus easily enters their body and causes cold.

Doctors say that some amount of cold is acceptable. It helps the babies clean their noses by sneezing. Clean nose is very important for the babies. If the nose will be clogged, the baby will not be able to breastfeed properly. My five month old has been sneezing in the gap of few days ever since he is born. He has no other symptom and thus he seems normal to doctor.

To decide if the cold to your baby is not getting worse, carefully examine his body. If his nose is blocked by thick mucus of grey or green colour, or he has a running nose, then the situation can be bad. These symptoms are of low-grade fever and the child can gradually develop fever.

Though we cannot use harsh medicines on babies to treat cold, there are a few methods to prove relief to your little angel. Try decongestant or nasal clearing solutions so that the baby gets clean nose and he can breathe properly. You can wash the nostrils also but the wet nostrils may worsen the situation.
Keep the child hydrated as much as you can. You can try some Ayurvedic recipes at home to treat common cold. Honey mixed with grated ginger and cinnamon makes for an effective recipe to treat cold. Moreover, it has no side effects!

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How do I make my child sleep through the night?

Sleeping through the night is a milestone that most babies reach only after nine months of age. Sleeping through the night does not mean what we adults do. It only means that you can expect your baby to sleep for five to six hours initially and then graduating to longer sleep hours.

Your infant must be getting up in every two hours for feeding and then again dozing off to sleep. Most babies after three months of age start stretching out to five hours of sleep through the night. While after crossing the mine months of age, some babies also sleep up to ten hours at night.

Though, I understand, you want to do just anything to make your baby sleep through the night. But the truth is that you cannot do anything for that matter. The child may develop a sleeping habit of getting into the bed at a particular time. But in no way you can train him for sleeping longer during the night.

Sleeping hours depends on the age of the baby and his or her capacity to stretch on the last feed. He will continue to wake up hungry and after frequent feedings will go back to sleep.

Some people think that if they will feed the baby a heavy dose of last feeding (of breast milk or formula), the child may sleep longer. This is not necessary. If this is true with your child, it does not necessarily be the same with other babies.

It is also believed that bigger babies or the babies feeding on the cereals are better sleepers. There is no research to prove this fact. Again, experts say that only the age of the baby and not what he feeds on decide how many hours he can sleep throughout the night.

I have seen with my baby that his sleep patterns keep on changing every night. Sometimes he sleeps from 12 Am to 6 Am without getting up in between. But there are other nights when he gets after every two hours like what he used to as a newborn.

Let me share a secret with you here. Deep inside, we parents do not like our babies to sleep longer because when they do, we keep checking on them time to time if everything is fine or not. So what happens is that the baby gets good sleep and you remain awake for his security. Sleeping through the night happens occasionally and when it happens, we get up surprised in the morning. After all, don’t you enjoy discussing the changing sleep patterns of your baby with your partner each mornings.

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5 Unusual Birthday Gifts on a Budget

Living, as we are, in constrained economic circumstances, when birthdays come around it might fill you with dread, especially if you can no longer afford the sorts of gifts you used to buy.

That needn’t mean that that we need to give up buying gifts altogether however. In fact, in austere times, it is an opportunity to use your imagination and think up birthday gifts that are original and well received, without breaking the bank.

Where it might have been easy to pop in to any department store and pick up the fanciest-looking gift on offer, having to be a bit more creative can lead to some really great gifts. Continue reading

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